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You must login or signup first! Already a memeber? Login Now! Don't have an account? Sign up Now! Nigel Thornberry Remixes. Thanks, Ree! My name is Claudia and I recently came across this site and it caught my eye. I was able to relate to a lot of your readers issues. I on the other hand have a few issues I would love to get opinions on.
I recently got into a relationship about a year ago and fell head over heels.
He got me out of work a month into our relationship because he wanted to take care of me. I jumped into it no questions asked because it felt like a fairy tale being taken care of not realizing that I was slowly going to loose myself and my identity in my relationship. I know a lot of it has to deal with his insecurities and we keep going in circle about it to the point that I have caught myself a few times daydreaming or even looking around unconsciously.
I will never cheat on him , but I know looking is just as hurtful. I allowed him to take control of my life and I feel lost. He fears me cheating because of the eye wondering and the trust. Why is it that your motivation is gone and you no longer socialize? Does he not allow you to? Did you move away somewhere isolated? Then start going back into the job search. I also used to run and no longer do. The best way is to just start. I recently moved country to an entirely new place with my partner.
We knew no one. After the first two months of lonliness, no work on my end, and no friends, I forced myself out the door. We no know tons of awesome people, and I even got work from it. I see it all as stepping stones to the next thing. I would also recommend that you consider seeing a therapist for the additional support. If you live to work, it can mean doing great things that also happen to earn you a living.
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It means not being lazy and striving to do what you really want to do a career. Is it too late for me? Wow it just hit me today that I am wasting my life. The point you mention are recognizable. I definitly hide away in television and fantasy worlds and the what if past reliving stuff. Thanks for writing this. It really helped me realise I need to change some things.
Thank you for this encouraging article. Piss off. This is typical of the so-called advice on the internet. Fuck interactivity. Bring back the simple pages that only gave you the useful information. Hi Ivan, thank you for your article. I enjoyed reading it and found it whilst I was lost in cyberspace. Finding the right ingredients and recipe differs hugely from person to person.
Some of us may never get it right and some of us may have very few flops throughout our lives, if any. Well, I think this is a brilliant question that many take for granted. It seems like a simple question with a simple answer, but in reality, this is an extremely complex question and there are no absolute right or wrong answers to it.
In , my brother took his life and this was cataclysmic for me and for my family. What I have learnt from this ghastly experience is that life has no special and magic recipes guaranteed to make things right or to miraculously give one happiness. So, what is it that truly creates happiness? Well, even when we have the answer to this question, putting it into practice is a very different story. This leads me to another question, can we realistically achieve whatever it is that will truly make us happy?
A person that is waiting for a heart transplant might yearn for the day that this can happen, but in reality this day may never come. Another person may dream of being financially wealthy and this day may never happen for them however hard they try to bring this about. Does working hard and striving to achieve a dream always equal happiness and success? We cannot ignore the fact that we live in a world that revolves around survival and that we have basic human needs that have to be met. This postmodernist society has created the ideology that we can achieve anything that we set our minds to and that we create our world.
This can be a very dangerous ideology, because we are ignoring the fact that we have to interact with others on this planet and that our environment always impacts on us too. How do we create some sort of balance between the two? My spouse is someone of the same sex and my family includes my siblings, parents, husband, in-laws, nieces, nephews, cousins, etc… I do agree with your article, Ivan.
However, there does come a time when all that you seek is inner peace. Sometimes you realize that certain things are just dreams and certain things can never be. This does not have to be a bad thing at all and can actually be embraced. I could tell you a real story of a wasted life. I grew up in a conflict zone which in itself was never a good start but damn I wasted so much time. I only wish I had read this 20 years ago. Uh, we all die alone. All of us. You die, you die alone, only you die, and then your body is gone and done with.
The soul moves on without the body. How depressing. Or you could just go out and make some friends -. Even if its just the fact that you are of the same gender or species. I am still relatively young but I am throwing away the perks of life I see myself going nowhere now and I have lost hope how do I prevent a robot like life. I have absolutely no interest in meeting or associating with new people. I will practice complete avoidance. Thanks for posting this.
I am truly wasting my life. I feel so bad even the people comenting feel like succesful people. Thanks Ivan For this article. After reading this article, I realize myself. Seriously it change my point of view towards life. I love your article. I believe the problem starts at young age, our Education. We are told to go to school to get good jobs.
Instead, what if we were told to follow our dream and our passion. What if when we were young someone told us to figure out what is the passion inside of us that will drive us to become the very best we can be. I can say that 6 out of these 8 signs applicable to me. I think we are forced to waste our lives in a sense.
Most of us have to work for 8 hours per day, days per week. I consider that a huge waste of life! In my case it would be to go out and have sex with loads stunning girls not prostitutes! I thought that once I earned my doctorate that everything would fall magically into place but I now feel like I wasted many years while I was just working. Is there any hope of me having any type of academic, faculty or research career at this point in my life?? I feel sorry for you. That was not a good move to get a doctorate and expect to get enything from it with out researching that first.
I hope you enjoyed doing the doctorate? Live is a mystery. We all have to find meaning in it our own way. Wish I kniew the answer. Did the doctorate actually give you some knowledge? Could you share that knowlege with others?? In the end it is who we are not what we do though.
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This article is superb…Life counts slowly.. Just read your stuff on life wasting away. My life is wasting away. Did you get that? I know what I want. I crave to travel. Go to every country in the world and then do it all again. Take my girlfriend with me and some camera gear.
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You reckon know one can know what tomorrow will bring. I know what tomorrow will bring. The same old rubbish I had today. How do I know that? Money will bring me alive!! Also believe in fate and destiny. Lack of cash is one problem, but fate is another. I have to live the life I do and nothing and no one can stop it. Unless you SHOW me how.
Thank you for your time. Hi author, This is one of the best posts I have read till date. I wasted 15 minutes of my life reading this. Common sense people! Time with family other than spending time raising your children properly, is also a waste of time. I found this because I was looking around trying to understand why people waste their lives on blogs arguing the same points over and over and convincing no one except those who already agreed in the first place. That is probably a form of insanity and a wasting of a life. Yes, most people are looking for a comfortable rut to end their lives in.
When the end is getting closer, the comfort of superficial relationships becomes more important in otherwise empty and wasted lives. I think so much about my life. Indeed i have a very conspicuous vision or a planned way to achieve my goals. Even i have that spirit burning inside me but sometimes i feel very low i feel depressed while am spending time being idle but something stops me from studying my mind says start anew study hard from tomorrow. And again it is the same story most of the days.
I continuously feel that there are other people who are studying at the time when am sitting idle that they are going to cruise Vincent sir please help. I dunno what to do? Better to bite the bullet at 21 than suffer through another 19 years of anguish and then hit a drop at Hi Ivan, thanks for your insight and article. I am 61 years old female, have been married 3 times, 15 years in the US military, have traveled all over Europe during 7 years I lived in Germany. I am a nurse I have a wonderful job in Hospice with Veterans.
I am remarried 3 to my childhood friend going on 6 years now. We live far away from family in a beautiful home away from hustle and bustle. We both have our health and both have jobs, we just came off a short vacation and are back in the groove of work and the ever paying bills just to be able to make it where we live.
I remember a song, forgot who, but says something like working to live that money makes the world go around and if you can do it without money I would like to see you try. Was last night filled with watching yet another episode of yet another must-see TV show? Could you be doing more with your time?
If the answer is yes to any of the above it could be you are wasting your life away. But what constitutes waste? One person's procrastination could be another's much-needed leisure time or passion. We all ask ourselves the same question: am I wasting my life? The answer depends on the person, and everyone is different, with one exception: our time is finite.
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How we spend that time, however, could be all the difference between a wasted life and a full one. Click on different hours of the interactive clock to see how many hours, days, months and years the average person spends doing certain things throughout their lifetime. This content uses functionality that is not supported by your current browser. Consider upgrading your browser.
Anna Williamson lists 10 key things you can do right now to improve how you spend your time. Vote below to tell us whether or not you could be doing more worthwhile things with your life. Select either yes or no to answer the question: Could I be spending my time better?